One lady said her ex-boyfriend was threatening to splash her explicit photos online if she didn’t ‘go to keep him company for the weekend.’
She was totally done with the relationship and she wanted nothing to do with him but now he had the power to ruin her name. She said blackmail had been his way of forcing her hand for a long time but she felt she had reached the end.
He had taken those photos during their ‘romantic moments’ when she spent at his place. And this is the fatal blunder many commit in relationships.
You’ve not known a person enough and you don’t even know whether you have a future together but then you expose yourself to them. Just because you feel ‘you’re in love.’ Or you’re ‘trying to make things work.’
You’re to never lower your guard and undress for anyone before marriage. You don’t know people out here and just because you would never do some things to people it doesn’t mean they can’t do it to you.
Another lady threatened to send intimate photos of her and the ex-boyfriend to his current fiancee if he didn’t send her the money she needed. And using this method she had minced money from him for long until he confessed to the fiancee and they managed to settle the matter after delicate and shameful negotiations with the ex-girlfriend.
Your body is your choice, right? Only be careful who you give that body to.
Some people will set up snares for you and you will pay dearly for it. If you’re still doing sleepovers with whoever you’re calling your lover, continue. You might be walking into a slaughterhouse and creating yourself into a nightmarish entanglement with a psycho.
I hope it won’t take such painful lessons to realize that freedom without self-restraint is actually a curse. You can expose yourself to whoever you want but you cannot control what they will do with the arsenal should you decide to leave them in the future.