Most men who date you when they’re married but pretending to be single are usually in it for the sex.
They’re selfish enough to use you for as long as you remain fooled. They can even take you to their townhouse when their family is away upcountry.
And some are very patient in their hunt as long as they know once you agree to a relationship you’ll give in to sex.
They can take their time to reel you in because, after all, they have nothing to lose.
Their life is going on and whatever they spend on you in terms of time or money is either negligible or they consider it a worthwhile ‘investment.’
Your only safeguard is to rule out what these kinds of men are usually after: premarital sex.
If you make it clear from the onset that you’ll only unpack when you arrive, you kill the motivation. They know with that stance you’ll carry thorough homework and you’ll find out the truth about them.
Remember, relationships, where sex is involved, tend to move very slowly because when people are already getting everything there’s little motivation to move things forward.
Also, intimacy creates very powerful bonds and emotions which in turn reduce caution and watchfulness.
Remember those pelple who cannot bend your principles will try to play on your emotions.
If they know you won’t tolerate them once you know they’re married, they’ll try to get you to fall in love before you find out.
Your solution is to keep your emotions in check and to always stick to the process.
