Just a reminder to ladies who keep asking why the man lost interest or stopped calling after you had sex – men lose respect for you after having sex with you.
They know men are always asking for sex and they wonder how many you’ve been giving it to and if he were to marry you how many you would continue giving it to.
True, you did it both of you and it seems unfair to think of you any lesser than he thinks of himself. But the catch is that mating is controlled by females.
If you don’t allow it, it won’t happen even if they ask.
Another fear is that women are generally more secretive than men and once he sees what it takes to get you to bed, he knows the human jungles have other men who can do the same and you’re capable of hiding it for years.
Men’s behaviors are paternalistic and predictable while women can keep deep things and new behaviors inside for a long time.
So since he knows it’s an uphill task to figure out his woman, he’d rather marry one who is too principled to take to bed outside marriage.
In sum, saying no to premarital sex earns you respect, not rejection.
Those who lash out were not serious with you in the first place, and even if you gave in, they still would leave afterward because then you would appear common.
Once lust has been satisfied it turns into hatred. Amnon hated Tamar more than he had desired her after sleeping with her. (2 Samuel 13:15)