Life coach Benjamin Zulu has advised people looking for love, especially on social media, never to be ‘too much’ emotionally attached to people they have never met.
Zulu in one of the posts on his Facebook page points out that, there are people on social media who play emotional games “by making you fall in love even before you meet them so that you lose objectivity and start missing to meet them so much that you break all the rules.”
One of the relationship rules, according to Zulu, is that no serious man will ask to meet you at his house for the first date.
“No serious man can ask you to meet at his house for the first or even second date, or to go sleep over or for him to come to yours,” he notes.
Adding that: “A person who talks like that is not after learning you or considering a life with you. They’re only out to chew and spew you.”
Zulu cautions that the social media era might be taken advantage of by some guys – hence need to be keen and extra cautious when handling love issues on those platforms.
“Although it should be a matter of common sense never to meet in such environments with people you know, in this era of social media sometimes people have been talking for long and you may have grown so comfortable with the person until you forget that you barely know them. You must recognize the emotional games play by making you fall in love even before you meet them so that you lost objectivity and start missing to meet them so much that you break all the rules,” Zulu advises.
He further notes that always moderate social media communications – that is if you hook up online.
“Avoid falling in love or getting too much emotionally attached to people you’ve never met. If you hook up online, control yourself and keep the communication in moderation until you meet to see what you’re really dealing with,” he says.”There’s a lot that cannot be verified virtually or through the phone,” Zulu adds.